I have spoken to hundreds of women online. What I have seen quite often is what I’ll refer to as an identity struggle with many of them. I want to go in-depth on this, but I am not a licensed therapist or counselor, so this is just my opinions, and mine only. Take them or leave them, but as a man over 50 in the marketplace you’ll want to know this for sure.
Watch Out For Too Many Masculine Traits
With many of the women I have spoken to, the majority of them have had to assume both the feminine and masculine role due to their circumstances. It’s actually kind of sad to hear them talk about it as they really didn’t want it that way, but due to their divorces (oftentimes their deadbeat ex-husbands), they had to start all over in a career, as well as provide the emotional and financial support for their children.
As the years went on, they acquired more masculine traits and didn’t even know it. Now many of them are in their late 40’s and early 50’s and can’t find a man. They are frustrated, but don’t seem to have the tools to recognize how masculine they come across to men, even on the phone. Many of them are very aggressive, opinionated, and will tell you quickly all that’s wrong with men today.
Here’s what you’ll see that should help you become aware they are more masculine than feminine:
- They’ll say things “like I have to be the leader in my job”, “I’m tired of passive men”, etc.
- They’ll tell you how their ex is providing no support and they are doing it all themselves.
- You’ll often sense a very strong tone in their voice that is not the normal feminine tone we want to hear.
- Other things you’ll hear – “I don’t need a man”, “I have my vibrator that’s all I need”, etc.
- They cut you off in mid-sentence on the call. And don’t apologize for it.
- This is a generalization, but if they have short hair, there is a reason for it most of the time.
- Their text messages are very short, no emojis, and oftentimes delay several hours.
These are just a few of the signs and signals you are dealing with a woman who has assumed the masculine role.
Learn To Understand Women To Save You Time And Money
I am reading a very insightful book that is pretty dead on, when it comes to women, although the author is educating and advising men to “give into” their feminine traits, which in my opinion is okay, as it is the opposite of what I’m talking about in this article.
The book is The Way Of The Superior Man, by David Deida.
In many books, you’ll see reference to the balancing of masculine and feminine. In the above book, he mentions “choose a woman who is your complimentary opposite”. So for Alpha’s they (me included) are looking for very feminine women. Women who speak in a softer voice; who excude femininity in their tone, mannerisms and how they interact with men.
To save you a lot of time (and money) when you are on a first call with a woman, see how she interacts with you. Does she allow you to talk (and complete your thoughts)? Does she give off a feminine vibe in what she likes to do and how she feels about men? What’s her tone like? Is it aggressive? Loud? Interruptive? Negative? If you sense this, it may be a good idea to cut your losses and move on.
Do They Want To Become Feminine Again?
I have had dozens of calls where the woman got emotional about her life. She so badly wants a man to take charge. To be the damn man! A man she can trust and lead the way. These women are worth a chance in my opinion. They were dealt a shitty divorce and had to do it all, but now, they are at a point in their life where they just want to be a feminine woman again. When you’re having a call like this, it will be refreshing to you. You’ll find it very intriguing and interesting. Don’t give up on this woman if you have an attraction for her, but make sure to test her often (maintain your masculine frame) to see if she truly does want to be feminine and for you to lead. Sometimes they say it, but but very quickly you will see the masculine side of them, and then you have to decide if you want to continue.
A Masculine Woman Might Be Right For You
The majority of men in our society would fall into the beta male category. These are the men strong women are complaining about, and yet is the perfect fit for them. Going back to The Way of the Superior Man, “choose a woman who is your complementary opposite”, this fall right in line with a more masculine woman. For beta males who are not decisive, driven, type A alphas, you may in fact be attracted to this type of woman. We have all seen couples that we just shake our heads at and ask how in the hell are they together? For this very reason, of they most likely compliment each other.
I hope you found this enlightening as it is just my take on this topic and what I’ve personally seen in the sexual marketplace the past 3 and half years.